Saturday, June 25, 2011

The Divine Feminine: What does it mean to a man?

Some of you may be familiar with the Facebook app called "The Path of the Soul Destiny Cards", it's been around for quite some time now. The idea is to "draw" a card from the deck, and it tells you an important part of your life or spirituality that you need to focus on at that particular moment. The app is based on a real deck of cards made by Cheryl Lee Harnish, and there's a website all about them here. What I want to talk about today however is a relatively new set of cards she's made called "Divine Guidance Oracle Cards". Both decks are based on the premise that everything in the universe is "governed" so to speak by fractals. Fractals are, according to Wikipedia, "a rough or fragmented geometric shape that can be split into parts, each of which is (at least approximately) a reduced-size copy of the whole". There's info on her website that explains how she's come up with the pictures and ideas on the cards and how it relates to the existence of fractals in everything in the universe, and to be honest, I'm not sure I completely understand it. For the purposes of this post however, let me just say that each card I've "drawn" in both of the apps on Facebook has turned out to be uncannily accurate for my situation at that time.

The card I "drew" 3 times in the same week was called "Divine Feminine". The text given for that card reads as follows:

This card asks you to begin operating more from a feminine flow of energy, whether you are male or female. It asks that you allow your power to flow from within, instead of using force. Be mindful of using a gentle approach to people and situations. The role of nurturer and healer is important for you and these gifts will blossom when you allow them to naturally emanate from you. Focus on your relationships with the people you interact with. You will find that more will be accomplished, while creating peace and harmony for all involved.

Now I don't know about you, but that didn't really give me a whole lot of information on what the divine feminine is all about. So, after seeing the card several times I decided to look it up. What I found pretty well changed my life.

I came upon this site, and it gives a really comprehensive and in depth description of the different aspects of divine femininity. The one aspect that struck a chord with me the most was the aspect of the divine feminine as a "Lover". Now it's not what you're thinking, it's not necessarily about sex. The divine feminine as a lover is concerned with ALL forms of sensory contact, not just those involved with sex. Here, let me show you......

The Lover is the epitome of Sensual. She exudes sensuality in her mood, look, walk, bearing, and engagement. She is intimately interested in all forms of sensory contact, experiencing the world in all its splendor. She is the archetype of play and healthy erotic embodiment without shame.
A woman in the fullness of the Lover archetype feels like this: She is sensual. She is open and invites you to touch—her mind, body and soul. She relishes connection with others, specifically the connecting aspect—beyond Ego’s fulfillment needs. She appreciates beauty in all its forms, seeing and feeling beauty in herself, realizing her intrinsic connection and possession of such. She is “in her body” animating it with vital energy through dance, or yoga, or movement. She brings, eros and sensuality and a “joy of life” to any engagement or conversation.

Notice how it says "she relishes connection with others.......beyond Ego's fulfillment needs." While being the "lover" obviously has sexual connotations, I think for me what it says is that it's important to be connected with people, in all aspects, and not just on the surface. I can't really explain why, but this really spoke to me on a very personal level.

I have been for some time now really searching for what my "gifts" are, and how I should use them here in this lifetime. To those close to me, some of them are fairly obvious, in that they are fully aware of my caring and generous nature. I have found that I am always happiest when I am giving of myself to someone who needs me, whether it be for emotional support, or just to listen. I find myself being pulled in that direction on many occasions, being the one that a person can count on to listen and just "be" there, without worry that they will be judged or ridiculed for who they are. It goes beyond that though, much further, and what I mean by that is personally, who I myself feel I am. My "relationship" with myself, and how that relationship interacts and connects with those around me, specifically. You might say, even, how the person that I am inside chooses to express himself outwardly.

To put it more simply, it's really about image. The image I project to those I come in contact with on a daily basis. I have come to the conclusion that oftentimes I come across as a caring and gentle person, which is fine, but there are other aspects of my image that I believe are due for an overhaul. Most notably is how I tend to appear like a child who needs his hand held to do everything. To give you an example, I'd say something to the effect when talking to someone, "Hey, can you help me with this? I can't seem to find where this goes...." when in fact I CAN do it myself, without assistance. I often do that to try to either initiate conversation, or to keep one going that has stalled. The reason? I am a very social creature, I like my connections with people, and I enjoy talking and engaging in conversation with others. There are many times however, that in trying to keep a conversation going, or to show someone I am interested in their company, that I come across as a person who is for all intents and purposes "helpless". I ask a lot of questions that normally a full grown man would not ask, let alone really need the answers to. I also tend to appear a bit whiny. It's just not the way I'd like to be perceived. How do those two things relate to what was said up above? I'm not sure, that's just the way my brain connected the dots. In reading the information on the website I found, I got a sense as to why and how I should incorporate the divine feminine into my spirit. I can be a man, but still be caring, but not come across as helpless or having the need of someone to hold my hand.

There's a lot more to it than that, but I'm not really able at this point to put it into words. Suffice it to say that I've learned something, and I hope to incorporate it into my interactions with others. It's important to use your spiritual gifts as they are given to you, and I believe one I've been given is the gift of boundless care and generosity, and I intend to use it to the best of my ability. Without the image of one who needs his hand held. I can better help and care for others by showing I am a strong person, able to do on my own, and therefore able to help them as well. I believe I can connect better with others by embracing all there is to be connected with, in the entire universe, and really BE in my body. I can try to be like the divine feminine lover, and know that the experience of this life will be more than I ever thought possible.


  1. Wow, what a very profound post. Thank you for sharing yourself so openly with us, and letting us tag along in your journey. Hugs and blessings!

  2. brilliant post. we could really use a family member like you at writing with us. We have mostly female writers and it would be a goddess send to have a male writer following the divine feminine path and to have his views.

  3. I would be honored to become a member of your family. Feel free to email me at with the information on how to become one. Thank you for your invitation.